Do you dream about the perfect relationship? How would you feel? What would you do together? How spectacular could it be? That seemingly too-good-to-be-true relationship is what the Universe, Higher Power, God, Source -- whichever name you prefer -- wants you to have. Too-good-to-be-true is your destiny calling, in all areas of your life. Most people have a picture of what an ideal relationship should be. But as you think about people you know, how many are actually living it? Are you? Or are you struggling through a broken, frustrating, painful or even mildly imperfect relationship? That's just not any fun, is it? All your relationships should be play, not work. You can easily trade the less-than-perfect relationships you're in for the inspiring and nurturing relationship you've always dreamed about having -- without trading in your mate or your family or your friends. Practice these 12 behaviors and beliefs, and I guarantee you'll see wonderful changes in a short amount of time. 1. The Universe delivers exactly what you focus on, so focus ONLY on the things you love about your partner. Ignore the rest. Period. 2. Reality is exactly what you believe it is. Great relationships work because the partners know they work. If you see any relationship in your life as troubled, or unsatisfying, it is. If you see it as improving, growing and fun, it is. 3. The only life you control is your own. You decide what to feel, what questions to ask and what to focus on. No one else can create problems in your life unless you allow them to by taking their emotional stuff on as your own. And that's not good for either of you. 4. The only weight problem most of us have is emotional weight. You choose every reaction and emotion you feel. Nothing anyone else does or says has any emotional weight unless you choose to pile it on. Practice attaching calm instead of anger, understanding instead of recrimination, love instead hurt. Make conscious choices about how to feel. 5. Not knowing what you want in a relationship -- especially a romantic one -- is like going to the airport and asking for a ticket to "somewhere." If you don't know what you want, how can the Universe deliver it to you? Dream up a shopping list of what aspects and traits you want in your ideal partner, and about what a perfect relationship would feel like and be like. But don't list the things you don't want -- you don't do that when you go to the store, do you? If you can't come up with good things from your own relationship experience, list what you like about your friends' relationships and partners. 6. Be in the moment. You only live each moment once, and you can't live in the past or in the future. And what you focus on in each day's 86,400 moments sets up what will happen in the next moment. Your relationships are perfect in each moment -- and so are you. Savor each moment, and each moment becomes timeless, as does the relationship. 7. Find a partner who is perfect for you now, then grow together. If you latch onto partners who will be perfect "someday," your moments will be filled with noticing that he or she isn't perfect for you, which will attract more imperfection and frustration. 8. Use the power of questions for good instead of evil. Higher Power only answers what you ask. Instead of disempowering questions like "Why can't I have an exciting, loving relationship?" ask "What would a fantastic relationship feel like?" Or "What's a fun way to find my perfect partner?" 9. Understand that conflict with your partner is nothing more than one or both of you being temporarily out of emotional balance. Rather than spiraling into a fight, step back and allow both of you to regain your balance. 10. Recognize that how others respond to you mirrors exactly what you're asking for. They live up to your expectations. 11. Be centered, happy and allowing your connection to the Universe. Be peace, joy and love, and your partner will be, too. 12. You get exactly what you settle for in life -- no more and no less. So don't settle for anything less than relationships that feel great! |
