Make no mistake about it, every woman in America is an American to some degree no matter where she came from. Maybe she was born in a grass hut in the Mekong Delta or on the Manila municipal dump called Smoking Mountain, where thousands of people live by scavenging through garbage. It doesn't matter. Once they board an airplane and fly over the Pacific Ocean they're bombarded by rays that begin to slowly but surely turn them into Americans. By the time they land in the USA they're only 99.99% Asian. Nobody knows exactly how this process works, but it's quite real. It's most obvious in the second generation of any immigrant group to this country. There is always a dramatic clash of values between first and second generations of immigrants. Asians are simply one of the latest groups of immigrants to experience this phenomenon. Probably the first Mongolian family of cave men who migrated over the land bridge from Siberia to Alaska complained about the first generation born in the new world, that their children were more interested in rubbing noses together than obeying their parents. Another disadvantage is that she is right here. Her family is right here. You know them and they know you. If you try to sneak off with some other woman, they'll be more likely to find out. Unless you're in a very large urban area, they'll be certain to find out if you try to date a woman of the same ethnic group as your sweetie. Don't even think about it. And remember that Lao and Thai people often intermingle socially, so they count as one group for the practical purpose of avoiding gossip. I suppose this is not applicable to places like Los Angeles, where there're far too many Vietnamese, Filipinos, etc. for everyone to know everyone else in their own ethnic group. But if you're dating a Cambodian in a city with only five other Cambodian families, stay away from the other Cambodian women. Just as you have no control over a woman in Asia, she has no control over what you do here in America. Here, she does. Her having a knowledge of American customs and laws could be a nuisance, especially if you live in a community property state. Unless she is well educated and has sophisticated job skills, she will probably be an economic liability, especially at first. The job market is rough for everybody, as we all know. For unskilled female laborers who can't speak English it's very poor. Sure, as I said earlier, relatively few Asians are on welfare. It's shameful to them and they'd rather work at a low-paying job and save their money to start their own business. Your woman may have to work for the minimum wage under sweatshop conditions. If you prefer to have a wife who makes good money you'll have to confine yourself to well-educated native born Americans or the not too common Asian women professionals. In other words, the Asian women who are least likely to want to marry European-Americans, because they'll have the most choices. They have families and friends introducing them to single Asian doctors and businessmen. |
